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Emotions happen to us in the moment. These are the places where we make actual changes in our lives for the better or for worse. Sometimes we say we want to change and think there must be some big process we have to go through. But it is simpler than that. Change happens in the moment we choose. For example, we can hear someone say to us, “You should join me tonight to go to this class.” If it is your usual style, you may say yes because it feels easier or more comfortable than saying no. But what if you tune into your body, and there is a feeling there that actually says, I would like to stay home tonight. What do you do? Well, normally you will go with your default position and say yes, but won’t really be fully engaged with your decision. But, you can choose, in that moment to be more authentic to yourself and say no. It may be uncomfortable because you are worried about what the other person may think of you. But, this time, you say no because you have chosen to be more authentic.
That is where change works. In the moment. As Yoda says, “Do or do not. There is no try.”
What would happen if you choose to be more authentic? Where would you say yes instead of no? And where would you say no instead of yes?
You would become more genuine and not operate out of some misguided sense of duty or obligation.
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Until next time, Johanna
